I got very excited earlier this year when I learned that Roland Orzabal of Tears for Fears was going to be releasing a memoir. Even though Tears for Fears has been one of my favorite bands since the 1980s, I knew very little about Orzabal personally or about the behind-the-scenes history of his famous band.
If there was ever anyone who was the perfect choice to tell the story of Tears for Fears, it’s Orzabal. Not only is he the co-founder and chief songwriter of the act, but he is also the sole constant member of them.
For those who may not recognize their name or know much about them, Tears for Fears is an English pop band that first formed in the early 1980s. For the majority of their time, the act has primarily been a duo consisting of Roland Orzabal and Curt Smith.
In this memoir, Orzabal tells the story of how the two met when they were teenagers and bonded over a mutual love of music. They teamed up and began creating music together, which eventually led to them becoming Tears for Fears, one of the most successful pop music acts of the 1980s and 1990s.
Among the act’s many popular songs are “Mad World,” “Everybody Wants To Rule The World,” “Shout,” “Head Over Heels,” and “Sowing the Seeds of Love.”
As a longtime fan of TFF (that’s what us “cool fans” call them), it was fascinating for me to learn about their early struggles as a band, their rise to fame, and the many struggles they had afterward, including a nearly 10-year period in which Orzabal and Smith acrimoniously split from each other, both professionally and personally.
But the memoir does not just deal with Tears for Fears. A lot of it is spent on Roland Orzabal’s personal life, including his very difficult times growing up in a home that was very far from happy. It also delves into his more recent life, including the death of his wife of over 30 years and also unexpectedly finding new love with a much younger woman.
One of the things I most enjoyed in the book was learning about the inspirations for several Tears for Fears songs that became quite popular, including “Woman in Chains,’ which is my favorite song by them.
It was inspired, unfortunately, by a very hard time during his childhood. To help support her family financially, Roland’s mother worked as a stripper – while also having to deal with Roland’s father, who was both emotionally and physically abusing her.
If you’re unfamiliar with the song, I highly recommend either listening to it or watching the music video. While the lyrics are a little vague regarding all of the above things I mentioned, and the video is a fictionalized account of another woman “in chains,” it’s definitely worth checking out – especially for the amazing guest vocals by singer Oleta Adams.
While it certainly doesn’t shy away from the hard times in Roland Orzabal’s life, I want to make clear here that this memoir is not a “downer” read. There were many parts of it that I found to be very uplifting and inspiring, especially the parts in which he shared how he persevered and excelled through various obstacles he faced.
One of my favorite things about listening to the audiobook version of this memoir was the wonderful narration by Roland Orzabal. His voice and delivery are wonderful throughout the entire thing. There were several times while listening to it that I thought to myself, “Roland is so great at this. He should narrate other people’s books too!”
Overall, I loved Welcome to Your Life: Love, Death and Tears for Fears. If you’re a longtime fan, or even a casual fan of Tears for Fears, I’d say there’s a good chance you’ll enjoy it too.
A VERY SLIGHT WARNING, THOUGH, IN CASE YOU’RE NOT A FAN OF ASTROLOGY: If you look at the above image of the front of the book, you’ll see the phrase “An Astrological Memoir.” This is there because Roland Orzabal is a very devoted follower of astrology and how it affects our lives. There are many times throughout this memoir in which he writes about it.
The reason I used the word “warning” above is that I’ve seen several reviewers of this book who were quite unhappy about the parts of it dealing with astrology. Personally, while I know almost nothing about astrology and have very little interest in it myself, I respected and appreciated that it plays a very significant part in Roland Orzabal’s life, so those parts of the book did nothing to take away from my enjoyment of it.
Thanks for reading. Have a great day!
Buddy
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